I’ve noticed that a lot of times others will mirror back your feelings. The world is a mirror. Specifically, when dealing with other people.
If you’re acting cold towards someone, they’ll act cold towards you.
If you’re acting rude towards someone, they’ll act rude towards you.
If you’re being nice to someone, they’ll be nice to you.
If you’re acting friendly towards someone, they’ll act friendly towards you.
If you’re open to talking to strangers, strangers will be open to talking to you.
Obviously, this isn’t always 100% the case. But, it’s the case often enough that you should always keep this idea in mind.
Sometimes that cold person is simply being cold, because you’re being cold to them! It’s common enough that you shouldn’t overlook the possibility. I’ve experienced this myself, and I’ve heard examples of it from friends and family members.
Do you have a rude coworker, roommate or family member? Next time you run into them, pay close attention to how you act and treat them. The truth might surprise you.