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The likeable factor

Do you have the likeable factor? Some people are easy to like, while others automatically come off as wrong. What makes a person likeable can be their smile, appearance, attitude or personality. Those same characteristics can make a person hard to like.

Stephen Curry is a very likeable NBA player. His likeable factor is off the charts. He’s one of the most popular NBA players right now, if not the most. LeBron James is likely number one, at the moment, but not for long.

A few days ago, Stephen Curry got mad at a referee for not calling a foul during his layup attempt. Immediately after the layup he tossed his mouthpiece at the referee. The referee, rightly, ejected him from the game.

The next day the NBA decided that it was appropriate to fine Steph Curry $50,000. While, that might be expensive for you and me, it’s nothing for Curry and his fellow NBA players.

A lot of the major sports analysts were surprised on how lightly Stephen Curry got off. They argued that if some other player would have tossed their mouthpiece at the referee, they would have been fined and suspended for at least one game.

I tend to agree with their logic. I can’t imagine DeMarcus Cousins tossing his mouthpiece at a referee, which is a physical act, and simply getting a fine. He would likely be suspended for the very next game.

Not Steph Curry though.

He definitely has that likeable factor. Whether it’s his smile, appearance, attitude, three-point shooting…he has it. It was evident with the NBA’s fine and lack of suspension.

To me, this is a great reminder that we are all people at the end of the day. We’re not business people, NBA players, lawyers, doctors, car mechanics, authors, photographers, musicians, presidents or anything else. We’re people, and simple (not so simple for many) things like be likeable matter a lot. It matters more than anything else.

Some can argue that it’s the only thing that matters since we are highly social animals. Try to keep this in mind as you go on with your daily life. Being likeable makes a difference.

Hell yeah and following your gut

Recently, I’ve been noticing that when I do things that make me say, ‘hell yeah,’ it usually turns out great. We are constantly being bombarded with social invitations and obligations. For a long time, I would accept all of them as long as they fit into my schedule. Even, the ones that made me roll my eyes in annoyance. Even, if I truly wanted to say, ‘no I can’t.’

Over the last 6 months, or so, I have only been accepting social invites that illicit a hell yeah out of me. If I think, ‘yeah that’s cool’ I still cancel or say no. Only hell yeah is accepted. I got the idea from Derek Sivers who uses the concept for business purposes. I don’t have that level of business opportunities, being presented to me, so I decided to apply it to my social life.

It has been treating me very well.

A hell yeah reaction is like following your gut. That’s my theory. And, following my gut has led me to having a great time and a lot of fun experiences over the last 6 months. I skipped all the dreaded boring stuff in favor of following my gut and a bunch of hell yeahs.

Following your gut is a real thing. Read the great book titled Subliminal: How Your Unconscious Mind Rules Your Behavior by Leonard Mlodinow.

You quickly learn that your mind is picking up on so much more information than we are aware of. If we were aware of it all, we would easily go insane. Your gut feeling is your mind telling you what you should do, after it has considered all the information it picked up on, without you being consciously aware.

Next time an invitation makes you say hell yeah, go with it. When the invite doesn’t give you that positive gut feeling, skip out on it. You’ll probably notice that something great will happen instead.

Being politically correct is lying

Being politically correct is lying. If you think about it, being politically correct is a form of lying. You are communicating to someone in a way that is not true to yourself nor is it true to the other person. No one is politically correct when in their natural state.

Being politically correct is a way to protect yourself from a potential social attack, and a way to hide your true personality from the other person. Somehow along the way we got convinced that being politically correct is the ideal and the desired way to behave.

No one can really relate to you being PC (politically correct) towards them, because no one is actually PC with their friends, family and others who are close to them. Being PC puts up a social barrier between the two human beings trying to connect. Political correctness prevents any real connection from occurring.

The funny thing is that people are PC in hopes of not alienating anyone, but in turn end up doing exactly what they didn’t want to do, which is alienate everyone. You think being PC is helping you throughout your social interactions but in reality it is holding you back and preventing any real connections from occurring.

Stop trying to sound all professional when you meet a new person. They don’t talk that way to their closest friends and family and neither do you. Talk to them like a real person and you will be surprised how quickly a real connection can be made. 2017 seems like a good year to stop leaning on political correctness, and instead start leaning on authenticity. I’ve been keeping this in mind every time I run into someone new, even in the workplace.

Oh yeah, happy new year to all and I hope you achieve what you would like to achieve in 2017. Even though major changes can be done anytime of the year, January is always a convenient place to begin.