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Key signs that you are a nice guy

I recently started reading a book titled No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover. I got to page twenty, then started skipping chapters and skimming. It wasn’t really catching my interest so I decided to put it down and start reading something else. I’ll come back to it some other day. The good thing is that I did run into the page where he lays out the signs that you are a nice guy. Contrary to popular belief, being a nice guy is not a good thing. If you want to get the most out of life, then you can’t be a pushover. You have to let your masculine energy out and go after what you want. Forget what women or our society tells you. Letting your masculine energy out is how you get what you want in your health, career, love and friendships.

Here some characteristics of a nice guy.

-Nice guys are givers. 

-Nice guys fix and care-take.

-Nice guys seek approval from others. 

-Nice guys avoid conflict.

-Nice guys believe they must hide their perceived flaws and mistakes.

-Nice guys seek the “right” way to do things.

-Nice guys repress their feelings.

-Nice guys often try to be different from their fathers.

-Nice guys are often more comfortable relating to women than to men.

-Nice guys have difficulty making their needs a priority. 

-Nice guys often make their partner their emotional center.

-Nice guys tend to be disconnected from other men.

-Nice guys tend to be disconnected from their own masculinity.

-Nice guys tend to be monogamous to their mothers. 

-Nice guys tend to be dependent on the approval of women. 

Some of the main takeaways that stand out to me, are that you have to do what you want. Don’t overly care what others think, nor should you bend over backwards to help everyone. Basically, stand your ground and maintain clear boundaries (don’t be apologetic for being a man).

These characteristics are very familiar. I definitely recognize some of them in me and in good friends. When I look at these I can’t help but think that it takes hard work to be awesome. If you just go with the flow and let others dictate your actions, then you will certainly not be awesome. You have to actively pursue awesomeness in every aspect of your life.

What it really means to be called a nice person

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Have you ever been told that you’re a nice person? Have you ever told someone that they’re a nice person?

When someone is described as nice, it’s assumed to be a compliment. Actually, I am certain that it’s intended as a compliment. Fortunately, I am here to shine some light on what is actually being meant by this word.

From now on when you’re told that you’re a nice person, you should take it as a challenge. Nice is average. Nice is boring. Nice is mundane. Nice is often ignored and overlooked. Nice doesn’t make noise. Nice is complacent. Nice is a good little puppy. Nice is easy. Nice is the default for most people. No one has to try and be nice. We are all automatically nice. This is, in large part, due to our social conditioning.

Who isn’t nice? Everyone is nice. I always catch myself thinking, ‘oh yeah he/ she was a nice guy/ girl.’ It’s extremely normal to be nice.

When someone says that you’re a nice person, this should be a red flag to you stating that you need to step up your game. In your head you should hearing alarms ringing, the sound of fire trucks, and the meanest college football coaches screaming at you. You need to start challenging yourself both mentally and physically. You need to start exploring and experiencing life. Being described as great, is what you should aim for. Blunt (sometimes it’s borderline mean, which you should stay away from) is even better than nice. At least you are standing out.

I was told that I’m great by my last supervisor (and current one) on more than one occasion. Literally she said, “Arthur, you’re great.” I have also been described, occasionally, as being blunt by friends and cousins who I hang out with regularly. Admittedly, some people have even said that I’m mean.

No one who made an impact in life was ever described as being nice. People who make impacts are often described as great, generous, charismatic, intelligent, relentless, ruthless, blunt, intense and sometimes mean.

Nice is average. I know you have higher aspirations than being average. Start switching up your life. Get noticed. Stand out. Most importantly, regularly get away from your comfort zone.

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