I recently started reading a book titled No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover. I got to page twenty, then started skipping chapters and skimming. It wasn’t really catching my interest so I decided to put it down and start reading something else. I’ll come back to it some other day. The good thing is that I did run into the page where he lays out the signs that you are a nice guy. Contrary to popular belief, being a nice guy is not a good thing. If you want to get the most out of life, then you can’t be a pushover. You have to let your masculine energy out and go after what you want. Forget what women or our society tells you. Letting your masculine energy out is how you get what you want in your health, career, love and friendships.
Here some characteristics of a nice guy.
-Nice guys are givers.
-Nice guys fix and care-take.
-Nice guys seek approval from others.
-Nice guys avoid conflict.
-Nice guys believe they must hide their perceived flaws and mistakes.
-Nice guys seek the “right” way to do things.
-Nice guys repress their feelings.
-Nice guys often try to be different from their fathers.
-Nice guys are often more comfortable relating to women than to men.
-Nice guys have difficulty making their needs a priority.
-Nice guys often make their partner their emotional center.
-Nice guys tend to be disconnected from other men.
-Nice guys tend to be disconnected from their own masculinity.
-Nice guys tend to be monogamous to their mothers.
-Nice guys tend to be dependent on the approval of women.
Some of the main takeaways that stand out to me, are that you have to do what you want. Don’t overly care what others think, nor should you bend over backwards to help everyone. Basically, stand your ground and maintain clear boundaries (don’t be apologetic for being a man).
These characteristics are very familiar. I definitely recognize some of them in me and in good friends. When I look at these I can’t help but think that it takes hard work to be awesome. If you just go with the flow and let others dictate your actions, then you will certainly not be awesome. You have to actively pursue awesomeness in every aspect of your life.