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The likeable factor

Do you have the likeable factor? Some people are easy to like, while others automatically come off as wrong. What makes a person likeable can be their smile, appearance, attitude or personality. Those same characteristics can make a person hard to like.

Stephen Curry is a very likeable NBA player. His likeable factor is off the charts. He’s one of the most popular NBA players right now, if not the most. LeBron James is likely number one, at the moment, but not for long.

A few days ago, Stephen Curry got mad at a referee for not calling a foul during his layup attempt. Immediately after the layup he tossed his mouthpiece at the referee. The referee, rightly, ejected him from the game.

The next day the NBA decided that it was appropriate to fine Steph Curry $50,000. While, that might be expensive for you and me, it’s nothing for Curry and his fellow NBA players.

A lot of the major sports analysts were surprised on how lightly Stephen Curry got off. They argued that if some other player would have tossed their mouthpiece at the referee, they would have been fined and suspended for at least one game.

I tend to agree with their logic. I can’t imagine DeMarcus Cousins tossing his mouthpiece at a referee, which is a physical act, and simply getting a fine. He would likely be suspended for the very next game.

Not Steph Curry though.

He definitely has that likeable factor. Whether it’s his smile, appearance, attitude, three-point shooting…he has it. It was evident with the NBA’s fine and lack of suspension.

To me, this is a great reminder that we are all people at the end of the day. We’re not business people, NBA players, lawyers, doctors, car mechanics, authors, photographers, musicians, presidents or anything else. We’re people, and simple (not so simple for many) things like be likeable matter a lot. It matters more than anything else.

Some can argue that it’s the only thing that matters since we are highly social animals. Try to keep this in mind as you go on with your daily life. Being likeable makes a difference.

Book recommendations on new Reading page

I created a new Reading page to organize and place all my favorite books. If you’re looking for book recommendations, then this is the page to turn to.

The list is not in any specific order. Nor is it featuring only certain types of books. If I read it and enjoyed it, then it’s on there (or eventually heading there).

The page is not fully completed, so expect many more book recommendations to be added in the next week or two. If one of them catches your interest, then I say buy it. At the very least, you know that I thought it was a great read.

School doesn’t teach you anything (or does it?)

Lately, I’ve noticed an influx of people making statements like, ‘school doesn’t teach you anything.’

Or, ‘anything school teaches you, you can learn on the internet or in books.’

I know those people don’t mean any harm and, for the most part, I agree with them. Especially, when it comes to high school, but a little less so when it comes to college.

I think there are some key things that school (high school and college) teaches us that some people are simply skipping over. Statements like those are very black and white. Like most things in life there’s a lot of gray area to be discussed.

Here are a few things that school teaches us, or at least tries to, that would be difficult to learn anywhere else.

Social skills. In high school and college you’re forced to be around people all day long. You’re forced to be around your peers and others much older than you. You have to learn how to interact with the smart people, peers, authority figures and trouble makers. Skills like this transfer over to the work environment where you have to be, at the very least, on good terms with your co-workers and know how to navigate the waters successfully with authority figures. You need to know how to stay away from the ‘trouble makers’ at work. There are always employees that are slacking off. You don’t want to get stuck associating with them, and get labeled a slacker yourself.

Where else would you learn valuable skills like those? Where else would you learn the consequences of befriending the trouble makers, and getting on bad terms with the authority figures? High school and college is the answer. Learning those skills for the first time at your company could prove to be very costly (you might get fired).

Does high school always teach us these skills perfectly? Of course not. But it’s the best place to learn them at. Can you learn these valuable skills by simply chilling at home? No way. Come on. Social skills are one thing that school can teach us.

Learning how to make friends. When out in the real world you have to learn how to make friends. That’s how you get mentors, connections, romantic partners and live a happy life. People with no friends are usually people who aren’t happy. You have to know how to be friendly with your coworkers and bosses. You have to know how to get along with others. If you can’t make friends don’t expect to get invited anywhere on Friday or Saturday nights..forever.

In high school and college we are forced to be around people all day. We have to learn how to make friends if we don’t want to spend break time and lunch time alone wandering the hallways. Those people who could never make friends in high school or college probably struggled outside of school too. Did they eventually learn? Yes, probably. But, that doesn’t mean it was the preferred way of learning how to make friends. I’m sure they wished they had figured it out in their teen years (and most people do).

School forces us to work together. Remember those group projects and dreaded presentations? Those stressful assignments were teaching us how to collaborate with others. Collaborating with others is important in most work environments. Were you going to learn how to collaborate with total strangers at home? Nope. School taught you that.

School teaches us how to follow rules and work within the rules. I can, already, imagine some of you going crazy and threatening to close your web browser after reading that.

Wait, let me explain.

I know following the rules isn’t something that’s popular right now and I agree that we shouldn’t follow all rules. But, there are some basic rules that we need to follow to survive in society. We quickly learn about those rules at our school environment.

Even the mega entrepreneurs know how to work within the rules and follow rules (when they need to). Guys like Richard Branson and Elon Musk certainly know how to break the rules. But first, you need to master the rules before you can break them. These guys aren’t just breaking all the rules that they find, and get their hands on. They know every single rule, and they strategically break the ones that they know they can break.

If Elon Musk was all about breaking rules, then how did he secure government funding for some of his projects? He knows how to follow rules as well.

What happens to the people who don’t know the rules, or can’t follow rules? They end up in jail, mental institutions or other places where I’m sure you rather not be. Following rules isn’t cool at the moment, but we do have rules we need to adhere by to stay in society, and school teaches us those. Unless, you prefer to spend your days in jail?

If school doesn’t teach us anything, what are you suggesting we do? Are you suggesting kids skip high school and college, and instead stay at home learning material off the internet and reading books in the library/ bookstores all day?

Cool story, bro. Sounds like utopia to me.

What’s more likely to happen with kids skipping high school and college is, kids just roaming around all day. Having fun, chilling, drinking, smoking, unplanned pregnancies, and giving their neighbors headaches. A full grown adult can barely discipline themselves to read and learn all day to further their career. You think a 16 – 22 year old is going to do that?

Think about your mindset during those critical years. Did you want to voluntarily read books all day and learn stuff on the internet?

Before we throw school under the bus, we need to come up with a real alternative.

The little things are the big things

A few days ago I was watching a great NBA game between the Cleveland Cavaliers & San Antonio Spurs. It was a simple regular season game with no major implications. This game stood out to me because of one particular play by LeBron James.

Kawhi Leonard, from the Spurs, was sprinting down the court for a seemingly easy layup. While the closest Cavaliers were already jogging, essentially giving Kawhi the easy layup opportunity, one player was still running full steam ahead. That of course was LeBron James, the best NBA player in the league right now. LeBron did catch up and prevented the easy layup from occurring. He blocked the shot! While most players would have laid back, and given up on the play, LeBron kept going.

One announcer made a comment that LeBron James gave an incredible amount of effort, for an unimportant two point play, in just one of the many regular season basketball games. The other announcer added by saying, ‘that’s what makes LeBron James the greatest in the league right now.’

That exact play is what led to the Cleveland Cavaliers winning the NBA Championship last season, in Game 7, in the final minutes. If you’re a basketball fan, then you remember the great play that LeBron James made in that game, of sprinting down the court to block the very important layup attempt of Andre Iguodala. It was a career defining play. Some are already saying that it will be the play that LeBron James will be forever remembered by.

That sprint down the court, & blocked shot, was only possible because LeBron had already practiced doing it countless times in many less important games.

(Additionally, those big-time game winners by Kobe Bryant were only possible because he had practiced them thousands of times alone in the gym.)

This reminded me of the great saying that the little things are the big things. If you never practice the little things, then how can you expect to be ready for those big critical moments? You can’t and you won’t be ready.

“It’s the little details that are vital. Little things make big things happen.” -John Wooden

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“Enjoy the little things in life because one day you’ll look back and realize they were the big things.” -Kurt Vonnegut