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Not doing equals not knowing

If you’re not doing something, then you don’t know. Not doing, equals not knowing.

Don’t be the person who claims to know how to lose weight, gain muscle, learn French, get smarter, build a business, make new friends, get a large social media following, but, for some reason, is not doing any of those tasks.

If you truly knew, you would be doing it. Why? Because, who doesn’t want to lose weight or learn French? We all think that would be cool. We all have aspirations, but a lack of know-how prevents us from achieving them.

An important aspect of knowing how to lose weight is knowing how to begin, keep yourself motivated and hold yourself accountable. How do you overcome those days when you really want donuts?  Those are equally as important as knowing that you should be eating more vegetables, and less sugar. Simply knowing what to eat, doesn’t fully entail knowing how to lose weight. That’s only a piece of the puzzle.

The hardest part of goals is knowing how to begin. Knowing how to remain focused. Knowing how to go up the hills and survive the dips. Knowing how to find the pieces of information that you’re missing. It’s not just factual information that’s needed.

You need to know yourself very well to ensure you make it to the final destination. Knowing yourself is very important. It’s very sad that most people don’t know themselves. They don’t know their own habits, motivations, weaknesses and strengths. Figure that out first.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” -Aristotle

“The most difficult thing in life is to know yourself.” -Thales

That might be the most challenging aspect of achieving any goal. If you don’t know where your faults lie, then you won’t see them coming. Consequently, you’ll fall right into them and that will be the end of the story.

That’s why I don’t like stating that I know anything, unless I’ve actually done it before, or have some experience with it. There’s so much more to achieving certain goals than simply regurgitating well known facts.

On being sad and depressed

Why is it that you’re so sad and depressed? Especially, if you live in a prosperous country (U.S.A.) and live a relatively good life?

The issue can be that your life is so good that you actually have time to get bored and sad. People who live in more challenging areas, such as Brazil, don’t have time to get sad and depressed. They always have to remain on the move to survive. Having the time to be sad would be a luxury for them.

If you’re sad and depressed, try to challenge yourself day in and day out. Clearly, you have too much time on your hands to dwell on those few things you don’t happen to have in life. Create a list of tasks that’ll pose a challenge for you to complete.

Do something before you become addicted to the negative and depressed emotions. Embrace your emotions, but then get over it. You can’t waste your entire life sitting around being sad and depressed. It’s time for you to create a challenge for yourself, and purpose to your days.

Sometimes an alcohol hangover, bad diet, lack of sunlight or lack of exercise can be exacerbating the issue. If you know you’re slacking in those areas of your life, then it’s time to get them fixed. Now is the time to get the ball rolling.

I’ve visited family in Mexico who are so poor that they can’t afford to live in a home equipped with an indoor kitchen. Their kitchen is a grill outside. When I went to their house to visit, with my Uncle, they offered us corn on the cob. They mentioned that they had been eating corn on the cob all week, for every meal of the day. That’s all they could afford to eat for the week. They weren’t even sad about it, because they mentioned it casually.

They were very fun to be around. They spent most of their time smiling and joking around. They had a difficult life in Mexico, but were a lot more happy than some of my family and friends here in the good ol’ U.S.

That’s probably one of the biggest realization I made while visiting Mexico. That you don’t need anything to be happy. Happiness is a choice. So, if you’re sad or depressed right now, make the choice to be happy.

Diamonds and good work

Here’s a good post from Rohan at A Learning A Day:

“Like diamonds, good work is a result of a prolonged period of continuous pressure.

The continuous pressure does two important things. First, it propels us to take daily action. And, second, it forces us to make sure we’re constantly learning and growing. This learning and growth, in turn, enables us to make the take better action.

Put together, this combination of daily action and continuous learning and growth make for a powerful self reinforcing combination.

Why, then, do people run away from continuous pressure? Perhaps the answer lies in the word “pressure.” It sounds stressful and negative. It can be all of that, of course. But, it can also be the kind of environment in which we thrive.

The difference, I’ve come to realize, come down to just one question – is the pressure imposed by someone else or is it self imposed?

The former creates negativity while the latter lays the foundation for an exciting, learning filled, life.”

Now the question to ask yourself is, whether or not you’re continuing to apply pressure to the different areas of your life. Are you, or have you grown stagnant?

Upgrade your gut feeling

Can you upgrade your gut feeling? Is that even possible?

I think so.

Find the people that you would like to operate more closely to and hangout with them. If you can’t hangout with them, read their books, essays, watch their videos or listen to their podcasts. Do this as much as possible everyday. Even more than you are comfortable with.

Remember what Seth Godin wrote, “Doing the best I can is actually not the same as, ‘doing everything I can.’ When we tell people we’re doing the best we can, we’re actually saying, ‘I’m doing the best I’m comfortable doing.’ As you’ve probably discovered, great work makes us uncomfortable.’ 

You might only be dedicating ten minutes per day to reading, but is that all you can do? You can probably do a lot more. Upgrading your gut feeling is not easy, and it certainly won’t happen anytime soon with a weak effort.

As time passes you’ll begin to notice yourself thinking and acting differently. You’ll say and do things that you’ll recognize from the people that you’re trying to be more similar to. That’s a good thing. That was your goal from the beginning.

Immerse yourself in the world of those that you admire. Poor decision making comes from being immersed in the average. Most people immerse themselves in TV, sitcoms, TV commercials, radio commercials, radio music, Netflix, their complaining coworkers, and their complaining friends. That’s why they think the way they think. You can’t really blame them. Their gut feeling has taken the shape of their influences. If they’re hungry, they reach for the Doritos.

If you decide to upgrade your gut feeling, in terms of health, you’ll know it’s working when you reach for the raw almonds, over the Doritos, when you feel like having a small snack.

You can upgrade your gut feeling in regards to almost anything. There are people already living the way you want to live. All you got to do is find them, listen to them, and begin doing what they advise.