Everything is related to testosterone

What if it was all related to testosterone. The outcomes of the many challenges that we face in life, as men, might simply be related to testosterone levels. Career, relationships, social, happiness and health. What if all these boiled down to a simply factor called testosterone. From what I’ve been reading, it might boil down to something as simple as that.

Being stuck in an unsatisfying career, being unhappy, being unhealthy, having the ‘nice guy syndrome‘ and being in a bad relationship might all boil down to you having low testosterone levels. Coincidentally (or not) the way most guys live their life is totally counterproductive for producing high testosterone levels in their body.

What are the habits of most guys generally? Here is what I think; junk food, fast food, too much alcohol, sitting around, low amounts of exercise, virtually zero weight lifting, poor sleeping habits and way too much sugary foods. These are literally the exact same things that limit the production of testosterone in a man’s body.

What are the habits that help your body produce sufficient levels of testosterone? Here they go; weight lifting, exercise, good sleep, clean foods, meat, avocado, healthy fats, low/ zero alcohol, zero junk/ sugary food, Brazilian nuts, almonds, vitamin D, magnesium and zinc. How many men do you know of that get sufficient amounts of all those items listed above? By sufficient, I mean every day, not once a month. Not many, right? Well, testosterone is the driving force behind a man. Testosterone gives you energy, drive and strength. High testosterone won’t let your body become overweight and won’t let your mind become depressed/ sad.

The fact that most men seem depressed, sad and unhappy with their lives has to say something. Then, you factor in the lifestyle that they live and you slowly start to get a picture. If you had healthy levels of testosterone you would be a MAN. That means that you would have the motivation to go after your dream career, health goal, relationship and social life. Going after your goals is what makes you happy. Being sad and drinking away your evenings wouldn’t even occur to you.

This is far from a proven fact, but from what I’ve been learning there might be a chance that it is all connected to testosterone. Those guys with the badass lives, beautiful girlfriends and coolest friends may simply have higher testosterone levels. If that is the case, then there is hope for all of us to get what we want out of life with a few major changes.

Thoughts on Mexico

I just got back from a nearly two week trip to Mexico. I’m still in the process of getting back to my regular routine and I’m slowly getting used to everyone saying that they are ‘too busy’ again. It’s crazy how quickly the human body and mind can adapt to a new place. The first day I got back from Mexico it felt very strange to be back home. The floor felt different and the toilets flushed super fast!

I have to say that I miss Mexico. The greenery, fresh air with a slight scent of soil, amazing clouds and friendly people willing to stop and talk. Of course, this is not the case for big cities like Aguascalientes. Aguascalientes is like any other city in the US. I literally couldn’t tell that I was in Mexico besides the fact that the signs were in Spanish and the road was littered with different types of cars that are not sold in the US.

I spent 90% of my time in a small pueblo (town) called Huanusco, Zacatecas. I also visited Jalpa, which is another small town 20 mins away for breakfast every morning. They serve some of the best birria de chiva I’ve ever had (Google it if you are not familiar with the dish). The dish was very filling. It kept me satisfied until 5 or 6 pm.

In the pueblo I stayed in, everything is very different. You walk down the street and are greeted by everyone you encounter. In that small town you know your neighbors and all the store owners. You eventually learn everyone’s first name. In the US I don’t even know the names of my neighbors. I’ve never even shook their hand! Time doesn’t seem to be as coveted as it is here in the US. People over in Mexico don’t mind stopping and talking to you for 10 or 15 mins. In the US everyone is always super busy. They’re so busy they don’t have time to eat sometimes! I’ve had that excuse plenty of times myself.

I realized that the fast paced life we live here is neither right or wrong. It is just another variation of living. You can choose a fast paced life and stay here. Or if you feel more suited for a relaxed life, then a small pueblo in Mexico is right for you. I wouldn’t be surprised if I decide to move to Mexico for 3 to 6 months sometime in the future, because I really liked it. The food is good and the people are friendly. A lot of the meat you eat is going to be grass fed. The air is fresh and the girls are pretty. The clouds form amazing shapes in the sky. There are beautiful views to be seen everyday. The music is enjoyable once you get used to it.

Yes, there is danger in Mexico but there is also a lot of danger in the US if you stumble into the wrong part of town. If you keep to yourself late at night, then you should be safe.

There is a lot of poverty, but it doesn’t seem to stifle the overall content mood of the people. Some of the poorest people I met seemed to be some of the happiest people. Lack of education was normal in the small town I visited. Instead of continuing school, it was valued higher to begin working either on the land or in a nearby shop. Earning money is a priority that sometimes has to be chosen over education. In the US, a decision like that is usually unneeded.

Overall, life in Huanusco, Zacatecas was very enjoyable. It was an experience I won’t forget. I look forward to my next trip over there.

On having a good night’s sleep

We all get the same amount of hours per day. You get 24 hours per day, your neighbor gets 24 hours per day and even Elon Musk. If we all get the same amount of time per day, how does one do more than his neighbor? The answer can come from either being more focused and productive, or it can come from working harder. Of course, doing both is possible for a select few.

If you want to achieve high levels of success in life, then you are going to have to work hard for it. Reading the biographies of Elon Musk, Stephen King, Sam Walton, Arianna Huffington and Bill Gates quickly makes you realize that it isn’t going to be easy. If you work the same amount of hours (the typical 8 per day) as your co-worker and neighbor, then don’t expect to get any further than them. You’re going to have to endure countless sleepless nights. That’s how you get ahead of the masses.

Recently, there has been a major movement promoting the idea of having a good night’s sleep. The movement is trying to undo the belief that sleeping few hours per night makes you cool. For the longest, sleeping a few hours per night has been a badge of honor. I’ve been hearing this a lot from successful people, such as Arianna Huffington and Ryan Holiday. I know they mean well, and I know what they are promoting is good for our health. Here is my problem though.

Would they be where they are today, if they had slept the recommended 7 to 9 hours per night while they were young and ambitious? Would Arianna Huffington and Ryan Holiday be at the height that they now enjoy if they had slept 8 hours per night while establishing themselves? I don’t think so, and I don’t think they would believe that either. The problem is that successful people are giving the ‘sleep more’ advice to unsuccessful people. While they are doing a good deed, unsuccessful people might end up getting screwed if they take their advice word for word.

You should have a good night’s sleep, but if you are young and ambitious maybe you should hold off on that. Follow their actions, not their words. Elon Musk and Stephen King busted their asses off to get to where they are today. If they would have slept 8 hours per night they might have never done anything. How would Stephen King have written a book after work, while caring for a family, and still sleep 8 hours per night? It would have been very unlikely, if not impossible. Stephen King wrote those books on little to no sleep and that is why he is the prolific author and writer that we know today. Same goes for Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Sam Walton and Gary Vaynerchuk.

Having a good night’s sleep is great advice, but if you want to be successful hold off on that for now. You need to work hard and do more while you still can. Take advantage of your youth, because it will soon be gone.

Key signs that you are a nice guy

I recently started reading a book titled No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover. I got to page twenty, then started skipping chapters and skimming. It wasn’t really catching my interest so I decided to put it down and start reading something else. I’ll come back to it some other day. The good thing is that I did run into the page where he lays out the signs that you are a nice guy. Contrary to popular belief, being a nice guy is not a good thing. If you want to get the most out of life, then you can’t be a pushover. You have to let your masculine energy out and go after what you want. Forget what women or our society tells you. Letting your masculine energy out is how you get what you want in your health, career, love and friendships.

Here some characteristics of a nice guy.

-Nice guys are givers. 

-Nice guys fix and care-take.

-Nice guys seek approval from others. 

-Nice guys avoid conflict.

-Nice guys believe they must hide their perceived flaws and mistakes.

-Nice guys seek the “right” way to do things.

-Nice guys repress their feelings.

-Nice guys often try to be different from their fathers.

-Nice guys are often more comfortable relating to women than to men.

-Nice guys have difficulty making their needs a priority. 

-Nice guys often make their partner their emotional center.

-Nice guys tend to be disconnected from other men.

-Nice guys tend to be disconnected from their own masculinity.

-Nice guys tend to be monogamous to their mothers. 

-Nice guys tend to be dependent on the approval of women. 

Some of the main takeaways that stand out to me, are that you have to do what you want. Don’t overly care what others think, nor should you bend over backwards to help everyone. Basically, stand your ground and maintain clear boundaries (don’t be apologetic for being a man).

These characteristics are very familiar. I definitely recognize some of them in me and in good friends. When I look at these I can’t help but think that it takes hard work to be awesome. If you just go with the flow and let others dictate your actions, then you will certainly not be awesome. You have to actively pursue awesomeness in every aspect of your life.